(This is a picture of Nichole and I.)
I’m so grateful to have made it through the darkness of my divorce… It’s beautiful on the other side.
Divorce Provided an Opportunity for Rebirth...
I experienced divorce for the first time when I was a teenager. Watching my parents go through their chaotic and violent divorce, I vowed never to put my own family through anything like it.
And then as an adult, I grew apart from my ex-wife and sublimated nearly all of my self-worth in a failed decade long attempt to hold onto a false ideal.
It took several years of pain staking hard work on myself to make it through, to heal, and to be really ready to attract the type of woman I wanted in my life.
When I went through this process, there was no roadmap. I made so many mistakes.
I broke hearts. I struggled to open up in therapy. I read a lot. I attended all sorts of personal development events and seminars.
By far, the most impactful thing I did was to join a men's group.
Individual counseling only took me as far as I was willing to go.
But in my men's group, I could just listen to the other men in the circle share their stories, and I magically gained insights into myself.
Over time I came to some remarkable realizations, which made it possible to heal my wounds, work through my sh*t, and get exactly what I wanted in a new, healthier relationship.
And that’s why I founded the Most Amazing Group of Gentlemen.
A lot of us men don’t do well when relationships falter. As our marriages deteriorate - during and after divorce - we try to "tough it out" …
We lose our support system, often become isolated, turn to alcohol and drugs to try to suppress the intense, confusing, difficult feelings that we experience during divorce.
All this stress has a negative impact on our physical as well as our mental health. We get angry, depressed and anxious. We get stuck, we get sick. Some men get hooked on pornography, and meaningless one-night stands. We adopt philosophies like MGTOW, and develop avoidant unhealthy relationship styles.
If you experience a divorce, no matter how strong and capable you are, you will be deeply affected by it.
Our goal is to make a positive difference in the lives of men who are struggling with relationships - difficulties in their marriages, separation, divorce, losing a loved one, and beyond.
We do this by working every day to break the stigmas we men harbor around therapy, and to develop a nationwide community of men's support groups led by licensed / certified professionals.
Most Amazing Group of Gentlemen fosters the community, provides the resources and creates the programs and events that lead men to faster healing and greater self-awareness.
We aim to help men break unhealthy patterns and give them a better chance of forming successful and enduring relationships.
Helping one man get through intense, stressful relationship issues may save his life, and can positively impact all those around him, including his children, friends, colleagues, and his community - and for those who do divorce, the next woman who comes into his life.
Asking for help isn't "unmanly". It takes great strength and courage.
If you’re struggling with relationship issues or are recently divorced, you don’t have to go it alone.
